I learned that his name is John. He served in the 25th Infantry Division, the Tropic Lightning, in Vietnam. In 1969, mostly. He was awarded a CIB ribbon. He, in his words, “volunteered for the draft, volunteered for the infantry, volunteered for Vietnam….was young and stupid.” But he’s here, now, remembering what it was like to come home from that service and be treated like dirt, like a criminal, to see that way our returning vets are treated now, and the difference. He’s here, with his 25th Infantry division hat, and his Tropic Lightning sticker on his car, sitting alone at the bar with his whiskey - or maybe tequila - on the rocks with a Corona back, a book to protect him against the possibility that no one will talk to him, a lonely man with painful and proud history, who has to wonder aloud how someone like me could be interested in that history or why.
And how do you explain to that combat veteran of that very unpopular conflict that at the age of 8 you were aware, and it hurt, and you couldn’t do a thing about it, and it haunts you to this day that you couldn’t help? You tell him about your uncle, and how he never spoke of it, and how your friends lost older brothers, and friends and uncles and fathers and that you understand what it means - this CIB and why it’s worn above all the others. And you promise to come again, and talk some more, and you think in the quiet drive home that someone needs to talk to these men, to capture these stories, to have them share the pictures and the ribbons and the papers and the memories and capture it before they are gone and can’t tell us what is was like to be there in that time in that awful place, to come home and live to tell, if anyone would care to listen, and go about an ordinary life, after living through the most extraordinary of horrors.
I learned something important today about a man I’d seen many times before, but never really “seen” and certainly never listened to. I learned.
